Relationship Therapy in San Francisco

Strengthen communication, rebuild trust, and cultivate a fulfilling relationship through therapy.

Having Trouble With Dating or Your Relationship?

Once, your relationship brimmed with easy affection, passion, and a deep understanding. But relationship issues like resentments, unresolved conflicts, and diverging priorities have made things complicated.

Communication issues turn even simple conversations into sources of miscommunication and hurt. These strains impact other areas like work, self-esteem and well-being as uncertainty about your future together grows.

Or maybe you want the closeness and companionship of a fulfilling partnership, but can't get past fears of vulnerability, rejection or abandonment. Dating brings anxiety and self-sabotaging behaviors as you encounter the same relational roadblocks again and again. Relationships seem to be progressing steadily, until suddenly you feel unsure about where it’s going and whether you want to stay or go.

Rediscover Security, Connection, and Intimacy

Therapy can help you develop a deeper understanding of your relational patterns and the unconscious beliefs shaping your experience in relationships. You'll learn to communicate your needs with openness and compassion, fostering greater transparency and mutual understanding. Painful cycles of conflict and disconnection will be replaced by experiences of attunement, repair, and renewed intimacy.

My approach blends attachment theory, the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), and other evidence-based practices to help you create lasting change. We'll explore your attachment styles, uncover the root of disconnection, and foster new ways of relating with empathy and attunement.

Our work may focus on healing from past relational wounds, developing secure attachment patterns, setting healthy boundaries, and cultivating self-love and self-worth as the foundation for intimate connections.

Whatever your unique situation, my goal is to create a warm, nonjudgmental space where you can show up authentically and feel safe to talk about difficult topics. With support and practice, you can experience relationships as a source of comfort, healing, and growth.

How Therapy Can Help With Relationship Issues

Therapy can help you to:

Understand why you feel avoidant, anxious, or uncertain in your relationships
Learn to deal with anger and conflict in more constructive ways
Let go of self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors in relationships
Develop a more secure attachment style conducive to lasting partnerships
Set boundaries while staying open to emotional investment
Communicate your needs, beliefs, and dealbreakers clearly
Identify obstacles, including jealousy and codependency
Overcome intimacy issues and avoidant tendencies

Working With Me

My approach to therapy combines empathy with evidence-based techniques, including:

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to reshape negative thought patterns
Internal Family Systems (IFS), focusing in on difficult emotions and ambivalence in attachment
Family Systems theory, focusing on the way your family history has shaped your understanding of relationships
Psychodynamic therapy exploring patterns and beliefs that may be holding you back from satisfying relationships

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How to Get Started

Schedule a Free Consultation

Click here to set up a free consultation with me. You can send me a message or schedule directly into my calendar at a time that works for you.

We’ll Talk About What’s Happening

We’ll talk about what’s been happening and your goals for therapy. You’ll have a chance to ask me any questions about how therapy with me works.

We’ll Get Started Toward Your Goals

If it feels like a fit, we’ll schedule an online or in-person appointment. We’ll set goals and figure out a plan to help you get there.

Schedule a free 20-minute consultation

FAQs

Therapy provides a safe space to openly discuss your relationship challenges and develop new ways of connecting and communicating.
Ambivalence about whether to stay or leave is a common reason people seek relationship therapy. We'll create a nonjudgmental space to explore your doubts, fears, and desires. You'll gain more understanding about your needs, values, and boundaries in relationships. Whether you choose to work on your current partnership or move toward separation, therapy can support you in making empowered decisions.
The length of therapy varies depending on your unique goals and the complexity of your concerns. Some people see significant improvements in 8-12 sessions, while others benefit from longer-term support. We'll collaboratively assess your progress and adjust our work to ensure you're getting the most out of our time together.
Absolutely. Individual therapy can help you gain insight into your attachment style, identify unconscious patterns and beliefs that may be creating obstacles to intimacy, and develop the self-awareness and skills to form healthier, more secure connections. You'll work on building self-esteem, setting boundaries, and cultivating the qualities needed for satisfying partnerships.
Building trust and emotional safety is a gradual process. I'll meet you where you're at and help you develop comfort with vulnerability at your own pace. We'll collaborate to create a space that feels supportive, nonjudgmental, and respectful of your boundaries. With time and practice, you'll likely find it easier to share your authentic thoughts and feelings.
In our first session, we'll discuss what's bringing you to therapy and explore your goals for our work together. I'll ask about your relationship history, current challenges, and any relevant background information to gain a comprehensive understanding of your unique situation.
In subsequent sessions, we'll work collaboratively to unpack the underlying emotions, beliefs, and patterns that are shaping your relationship experiences. I'll guide you through evidence-based exercises and discussions designed to increase self-awareness, improve communication, and foster greater emotional intimacy.
Throughout our work, I'll offer a warm, nonjudgmental space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings openly. I'll provide empathetic support along with practical tools and strategies tailored to your specific needs and goals.
Between sessions, I may suggest homework assignments or practices to help you integrate new insights and skills into your daily life. These may include communication exercises, journaling prompts, or mindfulness techniques.
I typically recommend weekly sessions to start, as this allows for more consistent progress and momentum. As you begin to experience positive changes, we may shift to biweekly or monthly sessions to provide ongoing support and maintenance.
My approach is flexible and collaborative, so I'll regularly check in with you to assess how our work is feeling and make any necessary adjustments to ensure you're getting the most out of therapy.
Please check my FAQ page for up-to-date fee information. I do not currently accept insurance, but I can provide you with a detailed receipt that you can submit to your insurance company for potential out-of-network reimbursement. Some clients also choose to use their HSA or FSA funds to cover the cost of therapy. If finances are a concern, I have a limited number of sliding scale slots available and a lower rate may be possible.

In-Person Therapy in San Francisco

Now offering in-person and online sessions.

In-person sessions are offered in Hayes Valley, located near the Mission District, Lower Haight, and Civic Center.